You know you live in the Caribbean when…

You know you live in the Caribbean when

Anyone who has ever lived in the Caribbean can attest to the fact that it is a gorgeous spot on earth that you feel blessed to live in, it truly is living in paradise.  And like all places, living in paradise comes with its ups and downs.

You know you live in the Caribbean when:

  • The simple act of walking out to your car makes you sweat profusely.
  • Wearing sunglasses is not a fashion statement, it’s a necessity.
  • Fast and efficient customer service actually throws you off of your game.
  • When planning a family vacation you avoid the popular all-inclusive beach resort options.  Use your vacation time to go somewhere different, like a big city!
  • Having to drive more than 20 minutes to get anywhere makes you wonder if it’s even worth going that far.
  • You’re freezing if the temperature ever drops to 26°C (that’s about 78°F).
  • You probably don’t own one pair of closed toe shoes (ok so this one pretty much only applies to women).
  • Half of your clothes are some sort of beach attire.
  • Every occasion is a reasons for a party. Seriously, everything.
  • Your grill probably gets used a lot more than your stove.
  • You love going to the grocery store anywhere outside of the Caribbean. Everything is so inexpensive everywhere else!
  • You really enjoy a rainy day.  When you live in the Caribbean you enjoy beautifully sunny, blue skies on a daily basis, the occasional rainy day feels refreshing.

I’ll take all of the good, the bad, and the funny when it comes to living in the Caribbean.  It’s such a beautiful part of the world, it’s hard not to feel fortunate to be here.

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10 Things I’ve learnt since becoming a mom

10 ThingsI've learnt since becoming a mom

We all know that becoming a parent is a life changing experience.  Here is a quick roundup of just a few things that I have learnt since becoming a mom.

1. Your heart really is a living, breathing creature that is just walking around outside of your body.

2. As a mother you really do put all of your own interests on the back burner. Which is why it becomes so important that you make an effort to take care of yourself as well.

3. Pregnancy and motherhood is one of the most joyous moments and life changing events you can experience. Unfortunately it is also a time when you will feel the most judged and criticized.  It’s not always easy, but it’s so important to learn how to tune the judgers out.

4. I’ve learnt not only how strong my own intuition can be, but I’ve also learnt to trust it.

5. I’ve learnt that another persons tears hurts me a lot more than my own. (can’t stand hearing my baby cry!)

6. But I’ve also learnt that there is no greater joy then seeing your baby happy and hearing that adorable laughter.

7. There is nothing more attractive than seeing your husband being a great father.

8. I’ve suddenly become an expert at knowing which places are stroller friendly and which places to avoid.

9. I’ve learnt that time passes too quickly.  Stop growing so fast my little man!

10. And finally, the main thing I’ve learnt since becoming a mom, is just how much my own mother loves me and how much she did (and still does) for me. Becoming a mother definitely gives you a new appreciation for your own mom.  Thanks mom!!

 

What would your list include?

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My ab challenge; why did I do this?

My ab fitness challenge

Recently I took up a 5 day ab challenge.  I have a friend who is quite fit and fabulous, and she set out to challenge a bunch of us to work on our abs.  So I thought I’d give it a go.  As you can imagine I had a bit of a roller-coaster of emotions over those 5 days.  Here’s how it went:

Day 1:  Yes!!  Let’s get this started! 🙂

Day 2:  Ok, here we go, I’m tired from yesterday but I can do this.

Day 3:  Yay it’s national wine day!  Oh wait, I’m in the middle of a 5 day ab challenge.  Ugh, why do bad things always happen to me?

Day 4:  Is this thing still going on?

Day 5:  Yes it’s finally over!  Hey this was actually kind of cool, maybe I should just keep this up?

Did I mention that I happened to wake up with the flu on the very first day of the challenge?  Yep, I had to do the entire challenge whilst also nursing the flu and taking care of a toddler.  I’m glad I accepted the challenge though because if there’s one thing I need it’s to work on my abs.  It wasn’t easy but it felt great to get through it and it has provided good motivation to keep up with the ab work.  I won’t promis to do it every day, but I’m sure I can keep it up a few days a week.

Have you ever done some sort of fitness challenge?  How did it go?  Do you still keep it up?

 

Powering through parenting when you’re sick

powering through parenting when you're sick

It started with an itch, a slight scratching at the back of my throat, I took some medicine trying to prevent the inevitable, but it was too late.  Now I’m sick.  Now I’m stuck coughing, with watery (and yet somehow at the same time dry) eyes, and an achy body.  There is one sure way to quickly cure myself of this flu, unfortunately I have a toddler so I cannot simply down some medicine and head straight to bed.  I must find a way to power through the exhaustion and entertain my little man.  Here are a few ways that I manage to power through when I get sick.

Don’t be a martyr, medicate.  Don’t insist that you’re strong enough to get through being sick without taking any medication.  Yes nature can take its course, and yes that may be how you used to deal with things.  But if you’re a parent you know full well that parental duties are exhausting enough on their own.  So just get to the drug store and buy whatever non drowsy medication works for you.

Comfort food.  Ok so toast and peanut butter may not be the most nutritious food out there.  But being sick and having to power through it is no time to be worrying about how healthy your food is.  You’re probably already consumed with making sure your child (or children) eats a healthy meal.  Just eat whatever makes you feel happy in that moment so you can get on with the day.

Coffee.  Lots and lots of coffee.  Yes I know that many people say that you should not drink so much caffeine, but if all I want to do is go to bed for a week then I don’t care how many cups of coffee I drink that day.  I need the caffeine boost and I will indulge myself.

Relax on all non-urgent duties.  This includes the housework.  If you’re a stay at home mom (like me), and have an energetic toddler that is still too young for school, then that means you’re on kid duty all day.  So just forget about all non-urgent duties, including the house.  Who cares if the laundry piles up for a couple of days or if the vacuum hasn’t been run.  Rest whenever you can so you can get better quicker.  This also means ordering in for dinner if you have to.

Those are my basic tips that help me power through the day when I’m sick.  They may seem kind of obvious, but too many of us try to keep up with everything even when we’re sick!  As a stay at home mom I can’t call in a sick day, so I have to lighten up my load however I can when I’m in need.

 

Please stop telling me to “just wait”

Please stop telling me to just wait

Just wait. Two relatively innocent words that are starting to become two of the most annoying words to hear.  No matter what stage of life I’m in there is always someone telling me to just wait.

Just wait until you have to plan a wedding.

Just wait until you’re pregnant.

Just wait until you have a child.

Just wait until he’s older.

Just wait until you have another baby.

What is the constant obsession with telling people to just wait until they experience what you have already gone through?  Every time someone tells me to just wait it makes me feel like they’re telling me that my experience is somehow inferior because I haven’t gone through as much as they have.  My life is unique to me, and things will happen in the time they’re meant to happen.  There is no way to know what the future will bring, so who’s to say I’m going to experience the same things as anyone else?

Most recently the just wait I keep hearing is just wait until you have two kids.  First of all, who said I’m going to have another baby?  Secondly, just because I “only” (ugh even writing that makes me cringe) have one child doesn’t mean that my stress or hectic days are any less valid than anyone who has multiple children.  Sometimes it seems like if I’m around other mothers who have 2 or more kids, I’m not allowed to say anything about being tired because the response is always “oh just wait until you have another baby, you have no idea.”   It’s like there is always someone trying to one up me, trying to prove that they’re somehow more talented than I am because they have more to deal with.  Why is it even a competition?  Why can’t we simply share our experiences with one another without trying to make comparisons?  What’s beautiful about friendship is that you can share about your life, unload your stresses, and support each other.  But if you’re too busy trying to prove that you’re somehow better than doesn’t that undermine the friendship?

Please stop telling me to “just wait.”  My feelings, whatever situation I’m dealing with, is no less valid just because you have already been through it or because you think your life is somehow more complicated than mine.  If you have well-earned advice that you can offer then that’s great, and it’s certainly much more useful than telling me to wait.

Let’s all make a commitment to stop telling people to just wait.  Perhaps a better approach would be to say “I understand.”  Let’s try our best to be there to support one another, and stop trying to one up each other.

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